ARE YOU GOING TO CHOOSE COMMITMENT OR THE CRAP IN YOUR HEAD?

Jen Coken
7 min readMar 2, 2023

Which are you going to choose — chocolate or vanilla? Chocolate is the commitment to the difference you want to make in the world and vanilla is the crap in your head. Chocolate is choosing to take the necessary actions to awaken your greatness so you can accomplish your dreams and make your impact. Whereas vanilla is choosing to continue to live by the beliefs that have been there for ages, but aren’t supporting your expansion. Vanilla is the equivalent of the ‘same actions breed the same results’ (also the definition of insanity by the way).

Chocolate is rich, flavorful, textured, savory, yumminess because it has so many ways of expression that tantalize the senses. (I mean just think, how many ways chocolate comes — pies, puddings, mousse, truffles, cakes, and all those delicious creations in the glass cases inside sweet shops — in comparison to how many ways vanilla comes.) Vanilla is safe, it’s plain, it’s comfortable. Vanilla needs to be dressed up a little with sauces and sprinkles and cherries to pack extra flavor. Chocolate can stand on its own. Chocolate is bold. Chocolate dares to dream .

My work with successful, high-achieving executive women who are standing on the cusp of their next level or next season, trying to figure out their next step, or trying to ignite that flame that burns way below the…

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